Confidence is Power
People with real confidence never let problems get in their way. They know what they want and they tend to go after it. If you’ve ever observed people with confidence you’ll notice that they usually know what to do in most situations. Even when they don’t, they know how to find the answers because they know how to talk to people. Their confidence is their power.
Confidence comes from an internal trust. It’s likely these confident people trust themselves. this theory makes a lot of sense when you think about it. It’s impossible to have self confidence when you don’t have self trust.
Do you envy someone for their confidence?
The fact that they are comfortable in almost any situation and with almost anyone. It’s not a big ego that we want but real confidence and there’s a big difference between the two. If you don’t know too many people who are confident, try to learn about successful people. An excellent way to do this is to check out TED Talks. If you are not familiar with these, TED stands for Technology, Entertainment, and Design. It’s an organization that exists to spread ideas usually in video form. You can find many of these talks on YouTube.com. Just search for TED Talks. These talks are usually very empowering and inspiring.
Many of these videos are quite short but have a high impact. It’s highly unlikely that you will find any of these speakers that don’t have confidence. You can learn so much from studying the speakers in the video and notice how they speak. Also, observe their body language. Do they smile a lot? How do they engage with the audience? There is much that can be learned as an observer when you pay attention.
Boost confidence by being inspired
There are so many inspiring people and true stories out there it would be hard not to have some of it rub off on to you. Another good way is reading biographies of successful people a good source for this is Amazon books. While a lot of these stories or books are not specific to confidence you’ll start to pick up the confidence and trust theme when reading through the biographies. It usually resonates through the story. If nothing else, you will pick up on some inspiration from other areas along with confidence.
Maybe finding a mentor will help you. You will know when someone is right for you because you will both form a good relationship from the start. Mentors are people who trust themselves and have confidence and it will be evident to you. It’s not likely that you would pick people that didn’t have those attributes to be your mentor. You can establish a formal mentor relationship, or you can just keep in contact with someone who you respect.
Be around confident people
When you hang out with confident people it’s natural that you will take on some positive attributes just by being in this relationship them. However, it doesn’t hurt to observe how your mentor interacts with others and how they solve problems.
When you observe or reach out to confident people, it will help you build your confidence. You’ll start to notice what you are doing wrong and can begin to make changes. When you become confident, lack of trust in yourself will be a thing of the past.