Improve your life in your fifties and beyond
Who doesn’t stop and reflect on their life when your 50th birthday is knocking on your door? You’ve had a lot of experiences from living through those years. And for most of us it’s been some good and some not so good. We’ve really achieved a lot, even when we think we haven’t.
We’ve made good decisions at times and poor decisions at others, we’ve learned a great deal about life and people. Some of what we’ve learned we’ve probably used to our advantage and some things we’ve just sat on thinking one day I’d like to do this, or accomplish that. Well maybe now is the time!
Stay alert to life’s opportunities
If you think your life sucks just remember that it’s never too late to turn your life around. Life happens even when we’re not paying attention. Opportunities are always around us but sometimes we’re too caught up in stuff to see them. Also we can become too distracted with totally unimportant things to notice anything other than what’s right in front of our nose.
Life is continuing to go on around us even while many idle away their time living their life online. And they are chatting with virtual friends rather than being active in the real world with real people.
Keeping a positive attitude is key even when things start to get you down.
As you get older, especially after fifty so many changes may have occurred in your life. Our circumstances change and you can get stuck in the old pattern of life rather than seeing that it’s possible to create a new lifestyle.
We all have stuff to deal with, no one is immune when it comes to loss, grief and disappointments in life. Becoming single again, kids leaving home, losing loved ones, living alone, retirement, all these are major life changes. And if you don’t adapt to the change it can really drag you down causing ill health, anxiety and depression.
If you feel really stuck and need some help moving forward then check out this amazing Bob Proctor Sandy Gallagher and Mary Morrissey course Magic In the Mind . And I know for sure if anyone follows it through and takes action that they can get unstuck, turn things around and change their life for the better!
Don’t use age as an excuse, it really is just a number
It’s easy to get caught up in the age issues. We are constantly bombarded by the commercials and other media that remind us about ailments that we are sure to get if we don’t already have them. They focus on all the negative things considered to be related to the aging population.
And this does more harm than good by causing more fear and anxiety than is necessary. Keep in mind that it’s money in the bank for the media and those big corporations that pay them. We all age differently and there are many reasons why. One being our beliefs and attitudes toward life in general.
Beliefs, habits and attitudes account for a lot in the way we live and age
Yes, circumstances change more as we age, things change all throughout our life. But it’s how you handle them that makes all the difference. Some older people are in a lot better shape both physically and mentally than many half their age.
Attitude counts for a lot and having the right mindset can keep you young at heart throughout your life. I saw that a lady from South Carolina set an unofficial record for the 100 yard dash, that was just days after her 100th birthday. This is just one example, Betty White comedienne and actress at 96 years of age still going strong.
Be like the music legends and others that keep doing what they love.
And one of my favorite personal development speakers and trainers Bob Proctor is truly amazing, and he’s in his mid 80’s. Also look at some of the all time great music legends like Mick Jagger, Paul McCartney, Tom Jones, Cher and many others that are still on the road performing in front of huge audiences. And it’s not because they have to but because they want to.
Excuses are what usually keeps us from achieving our goals. Stop making excuses! They’re preventing you from getting what you want and deserve from life!
Know yourself and what you actually do want out of life.
Before you start designing and planning your new life make sure you know its what you really want. Really think about it what is right for you and then write it all down. Also list the things you like about your present life, what you want to keep and also the things you don’t like and want to change.
This is an important step to do before you start trying to make changes. Make sure your efforts are going into the right things. Plus it’s important that really know yourself first, your likes dislikes, wants and needs. What your true values are, and what’s most important to you, and who is important to you?
Are you in control of your own life and thoughts? Do you always say yes to people when you really want to say no and if so why do you do it? What makes you happy? What do you already know, what do you want to know? What resources do you already have and which do you need?
Don’t let others tell you how you should live your life
Many people spend most of their life trying to please others while rarely pleasing themselves. They listen to people that think they know what’s best for them. And they let others talk them out of what they really want.
Often it’s family members and friends that tell you not to be silly, and that you don’t need to change anything because you’ve already got it good. Or they may suggest to you that you can’t do something, or it’s impossible, or it’s just not right for you. Everything is fine as it is, don’t be so ungrateful. When people we know so well start to make changes it can become a threat to others.
Also many are trying to fulfill another person’s dreams and not their own.
Create building blocks for your new life
It takes time to make real and lasting change. We can fake things for a little while but easily fall back into old habits and ways. This is because we don’t have a strong foundation. You first have to be clear of what it is you want to change. And then start taking small steps, or as I like to think of it, creating the building blocks.
For example a house first needs a foundation, something steady to stand on. If it doesn’t have that at the first real storm it can easily become unstable and damaged or even destroyed. For you that strong foundation could mean a number of things depending on who you are. Where you are in life and what you want to do.
Create the foundation for the life you dream of
It could be to support or receive the support of family and friends. Or it could be a stable home base, a career, improved finances. But whatever it is once you have that foundation in place and feel comfortable, then you can add more small changes (more building blocks).
Maybe you want to get healthier, lose weight, get fit, make more money, travel, get into a relationships or to start a small business. But whatever it is lay the foundation first and then start building the life you want piece by piece.
It’s not enough to say I hate my life, you have to know why!
You also need to know why you want to change it, if that is your desire. You can’t effectively change what you don’t know.
Don’t put off what you know you want and why you want it! Quit the excuses, form better habits, and focus on what you know. Appreciate every small success and know that you have it in you to succeed in reinventing yourself and your life.