There are the many different phases of our life that we have gone through, times that we don’t usually even think too much about until we get older. We flow from one period to another, most of the time the changes happening whether we are ready for it or not. The initial stages of a new life chapter usually starts with at least some apprehension and doubt, as well as some degree of stress but somehow we learn to adapt to our new circumstances.
Stop for a minute and take a trip down memory lane, just look back at what you’ve done with our life to date. How have you changed, who has touched your life, who’s life have you touched and made a difference to?
Where have you been what changes have you seen? Are you satisfied with the life you have lead so far or is it time to change your life?
It’s a long line of changes from childhood, from the first day stepping into the big world of school. Going through the different learning experiences, grades and teachers, then maybe on to college/university and into a career, relationships, financial responsibility, and on it goes. Plus there are all the personal and emotional changes that we go through that are a given.
Even for those that are generally happy with their lot experience times when life can become humdrum leaving you feeling there has to be more and that it’s time to change your life.
There are certain times in life when things go along quite smoothly, times when you may feel happy and fulfilled, but unexpected and sometimes bad things happen to the best of us. Changes that we never saw coming can completely change our view of the world and the way we feel about ourselves. For some people it’s losing a loved one that can change your life forever. The loss of a loved one can take a lot of coming to terms with. It takes time, a lot of time especially when it’s your child or spouse. You have to be prepared that life will be different but it’s important to also remember that you still have a life that only you can live. A life that needs to be used responsibly and enjoyed as much as possible!
There are other things that present themselves to change your life, circumstances that at the time may seem like it’s the end of the world but given time it can end up being for the best. It’s usually not until sometime down the road after the event that you actually realize and can admit that something that seemed so unfair at the time could actually turn out to be positive.
For some it’s a relationship that ends or becomes so toxic that leaves them at a loss and forces the change in their life. There are those that remove themselves from an unhealthy relationship even though it could mean giving up a home and other materials. For others it’s because they lose a job or have to move far away from what is familiar and what they know. It’s disrupting and often leaves you feeling used and abused but sometimes these things are things that needed to happen but you just never got around to doing it yourself. For some it may be a health scare that ends up being a wake-up call and gets them realizing how important their life actually is. For others it’s been self sabotaging behavior such as addictions. They make significant changes and learn to value and enjoy what they have. For many these changes can lead to better things in life.
Life circumstances are changing constantly sometimes they are by choice and other times they are out of our control but we have to learn to live with change. So how do you change your life? What is it that you want to change?
- Once you recognize that your life needs changing do yourself a big favor and acknowledge the fact that you are the only one that can make the change.
- Know what it is that needs changing – you can do this by writing a list of what is working in your life and what is not.
- Pick one thing from your list that you know you want to change.
- Once you pick one thing start to take action right away. Do something to get the ball rolling and then build upon it until you get the results you desire.
- Then repeat with others things you want to change
- Appreciate the things that you do have that are working.
- Don’t let age be a barrier or excuse- it’s never too late to make some changes.
- Do something worthwhile- help others, take up a hobby, get involved!
- Always remember that it’s not up to others to fulfill your life that is your responsibility.
- Find clues to happiness from your past, what worked then could work now even if you have to make some adjustments.
- Remember it’s rarely things that make you happy.
- People count- friends, family, companionship, it’s relationships that count the most and in the end it’s all that really matters.
- The quality of your relationships are usually at the root of all things, happiness, sadness, frustration and so on. Whether it’s personal romantic relationships, family, friends, co-workers or the relationship you have with yourself.
Look at what you have right in front of you and see how it’s working. If it’s not working the way you think it should; try to come up with ways to improve it, if not then maybe it’s time to give it up and get on with something new. You really can change your life at any age!