Archive for Relationships
Concerns for Aging Parents
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By Shirley Price
As we reach 50 and over unless our parents have already passed on most of us will start having a number of concerns about our aging parents. The degree of assistance that
Concerns for Aging Parents
you can personally provide them if and when they need it will depend a lot on whether you live close to them, also according to the level of care they may need depending on the state of their health.
When distance is an issue
If you’re like me and live in a different country to your parent(s) the chances are that you are not physically able to assist them as much as you would like. This in itself can be very stressful and a big concern for many of us. We may be able to help financially to some extent. Maybe help them with purchasing medical and mobility aids if they need them like a walker or other aids to help them be as comfortable and mobile as possible, but it’s not the same as being able to be there in person offering our personal support.
When you live far away even though you may talk on the phone on a regular basis; there can be a lot of guilt that goes along with all the other concerns. I have been very fortunate that my mother has maintained reasonably good health and at 88 years of age is fairly active and able to continue to go out on a daily basis. My mom and her husband, who she married when she was 70, continue to live in their own home. My dad passed away when my mom in her 50s. Read More→
Retired and Single
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by Shirley Price
So… what’s next for You?
If you’ve been working really hard all these years, you may have been so focused with your job that you were not even thinking about a love life. You are certainly not alone in this world of growing singles.
Re-evaluate your Life
When it comes to that time when work no longer consumes your time it’s a good time to take the opportunity to re-evaluate your life. To know where you’re headed and what you 
want now that you have the time to make other choices. What are you going to do and who are you going to be doing it with?
Do you even want a Relationship?
Many people enjoy being single, yet I believe if most are totally honest a large percentage of those singles would like to have someone to share some of life’s experiences with either on a full time or part time basis.
Set In our Ways
As we get older many of us are set in our ways and wonder if it would even be possible to live with another person. Even if we have lived with someone previously after living alone for a long time it could take a bit of getting used to. Of course finding the right person could change everything, even your mind of “never again”! Read More→
10 Tips To Getting Out Of A Relationship Rut
Posted by: | CommentsWith few exceptions, marriage can invite tribulations especially when neither of the partners is willing to give way. Traits can play an important role in the outcome of marriage. If either of the couple is extremely forgiving and understanding, problems that often make a marriage start to falter, or any relationship for that matter, can usually be resolved.
Nonetheless, if the circumstances have become repetitive and the manner of resolving the issues have only made matters worse, then being forgiving or understanding is not enough. 10 tips are provided in this article to help couples improve their relationship chances.
1. Do something new. It need not always be a major activity. Sometimes, even a simple note of thanks or expression of endearment such as “take care” “see you tonight” may surprise your partner and sets a different atmosphere or mood. At times, going out on a walk or watching a movie together can be a good bonding opportunity.
2. Plan a getaway vacation. Some time spent with your partner in another environment can help ease the tension. In fact, it can be a great way to express your love for your partner especially when you are away from pressures from your respective career, friends, family, children and domestic concerns. Read More→
10 Signs That You Are In An Abusive Relationship
Posted by: | CommentsAge makes no difference when it comes to relationship abuse. We tend to think that abusive relationships generally happen to the young because they are naive and do not have enough experience in relationships to know better. Many older people will have stayed in abusive relationships for many years, and there are others that may have got into an abusive relationship after losing their spouse through divorce or death. This is a time when many are at their most vulnerable and make decisions based more on desperation than what is best for them.
Abuse in relationships can come in two forms: Physical and Emotional. There are relationships in which the other partner inflicts emotional pain to the other. This type of abuse is emotional. However, there are also relationships, which are underlined with physical pain or violence. This form of abuse is labeled as physical.
Often a combination of physical and emotional abuse can happen in a relationship. It can be said that abuse is present in a relationship when one person endeavors to take dominance over his or her partner’s life in many or all aspects using fear, force, pain, intimidation, shame or guilt.
The perpetrator of abuse can be a man or woman and the abuse can happen in homosexual or heterosexual relationships. The following 10 signs can be a determining factor whether yours is an abusive relationship. Read More→
The Keys To Successful Dating Over 50
Posted by: | CommentsEven though I agree with the old adage that says “Age does not matter”, I have still seen many individuals’ egos shrink as they grow older. There is an internal belief especially among this age group that dating seems to be only for the young. Now is the time to assert ourselves and say that this should not be the case. This stereotype which has seemingly been inherited from time immemorial has marked a belief that the idea of dating is somewhat taboo as you age.
Can I still be a part of the dating world? Who should I date? For women the questions are often, should I always look for someone older? How would I deal with somebody who is maybe 5 to 10 years my junior? What will others think if I dated someone much younger that I? And the list goes on and on. So many questions arise among those 50 plus and most of them have something to do with a common factor – age.
To start things off, we have to admit that there are definite differences in more ways than one as the age gap widens. If you’re in your 50s and date somebody in their 30s, there are probably going to be very different ideas of priorities and expectations. Remember, the ideas of one person are usually age specific. You don’t expect somebody at the age of 30 to be thinking about his or her retirement plans. They are probably more interested in buying their first house or a car, even starting a family. Whereas you have probably been there, done that and have totally different ideas of what you want out of life and a relationship. Read More→
Remember When-Memories To Share
Posted by: | CommentsAs you think back to your younger years and any family get-togethers that you attended, you were probably more interested in playing with any cousins that were similar in age than you were in spending time with aunts, uncles, or grandparents.
We weren’t generally interested in our parents’ memories, nor our older relatives or their history. Usually it isn’t until we are more mature that we begin to be genuinely interested in where we came from or put importance on our roots.
As we begin to establish memories of our own; places we’ve lived, friends we’ve had, and events we’ve experienced; we realize there are others who we are related to us that have had similar experiences. Some may become fascinated with mannerisms, physical features, health issues, likes and dislikes, and other similarities that we may find we share with them. Once our curiosity rises we may start to ask questions of our parents and grandparents about their own memories. How fortunate are those who reach this stage in their lives and still have access to those who can answer those questions. There are many who don’t have that privilege. If you have grown children of your own, there are things you can do to leave such a legacy for them to share with their own family. Read More→
