Improve your life in your fifties and beyond
Who doesn’t stop and reflect on their life when your 50th birthday is knocking on your door? You’ve had a lot of experiences from living through those years, for most of us it’s been some good and some not so good. We’ve really achieved a lot, even when we think we haven’t. We’ve made good decisions at times and poor decisions at others, we’ve learned a great deal about life and people. Some of what we’ve learned we’ve probably used to our advantage and some things we’ve just sat on thinking one day I’d like to do this, or accomplish that. Well maybe now is the time!
Stay alert to life’s opportunities
If you think your life sucks just remember that it’s never too late to turn your life around. Life happens even when we’re not paying attention. Opportunities are always around us but sometimes we’re too caught up in stuff. Or too distracted with totally unimportant things to notice anything other than what’s right in front of our nose. Life is going on while many idle away time living their life online with virtual friends rather than being active in the real world with real people.
As you get older, especially after fifty so many changes may have occurred in your life. Circumstances change and you can get stuck in the old pattern of life rather than seeing that it’s possible to create a new lifestyle. We all have stuff to deal with, no one is immune when it comes to loss and disappointment. Becoming single again, kids left home, losing loved ones, living alone, retirement, all these are major life changes and if you don’t adapt to the change it can really drag you down.
Don’t use age as an excuse, it really is just a number
It’s easy to get caught up in the age issues. We are constantly bombarded by the commercials and other media that remind us about ailments that we are sure to get if we don’t already have them. They focus on all the negative things considered to be related to the aging population and do more harm than good by causing more fear and anxiety than is necessary. Keep in mind that it’s money in the bank for the media and those big corporations that pay them.
Yes, circumstances change more as we age but things change all through life, it’s how you handle them that makes all the difference. Some older people are in a lot better shape both physically and mentally than many half their age. Attitude counts for a lot and having the right mindset can keep you young at heart throughout your life. Just this week a lady from South Carolina set an unofficial record for the 100 yard dash, this was just days after her 100th birthday. This is just one example, Betty White comedienne and actress at 94 years of age still going strong, Bob Proctor, motivational speaker he’s in his 80’s and many of the old rock n rollers like Mick Jagger still on the road performing for huge audiences, not because they have to but because they want to. Excuses are what usually keeps us at from achieving our goals. Stop making excuses! They’re preventing you from getting what you want and deserve from life!
Know yourself and what you actually do want out of life.
Before you start designing and planning your new life make sure you know its what you really want. Write it all down, list the things you like about your life and want to keep and also the ones you don’t like and want to change. This is an important thing to do before you start, you have to know yourself first. What are your true values, What’s important to you, who is important to you? Are you in control of your own life and thoughts? Do you always say yes to people when you really want to say no and if so why do you do it? What makes you happy? What do you already know, what do you want to know? What resources do you already have and which do you need?
Don’t let others tell you how you should live your life
Many people spend most of their life trying to please others while rarely pleasing themselves. They listen to people that think they know what’s best for them, they let others talk them out of what they want. Often it’s family members and friends that tell you not to be silly, you don’t want to change anything, you’ve already got it good. Or they may suggest to you that you can’t do something, or it’s impossible, or it’s just not right for you. Everything is fine as it is, don’t be so ungrateful. Also many are trying to fulfill another person’s dreams and not their own.
Create building blocks for your new life
It takes time to make real and lasting change. We can fake things for a little while but easily fall back into old habits and ways because we don’t have a strong foundation. You have to be clear of what it is you want to change and then start taking small steps, or as I like to think of it, creating the building blocks. For example a house first needs a foundation, something steady to stand on. If it doesn’t have that at the first real storm it can easily become unstable and damaged or even destroyed. For you that strong foundation could mean a number of things depending on who you are, where you are in life and what you want to do. It could be the support of family and friends, it could be a stable home base, a career, finances, whatever it is once you have that foundation in place and feel comfortable, then you can add more small changes (the building blocks). Maybe you want to get healthier, lose weight, get fit, make more money, travel, get into a relationships, travel, start a small business, whatever it is lay the foundation first and then start building the life you want piece by piece.
It’s not enough to say I hate my life, you have to know why! You also need to know why you want to change it if that is your desire. You can’t effectively change what you don’t know. Don’t put off what you know you want and why you want it! Quit the excuses, form better habits, and focus on what you know. Appreciate every small success and know that you have it in you to succeed in reinventing yourself and your life.