Another year begins and in a way it’s a chance to wipe the slate clean and an opportunity to decide what we want the coming months to hold. We should always be consciously planning and setting goals that will keep us on track and living life the way we want but most of us don’t. Although most goals set at New Year will soon be forgotten it really is a good time to make change.
There are always lots of articles and talk about New Year’s resolutions at this time of year and for many it’s only when the busyness of the holiday is over that some with serious intentions can actually take the time to clearly focus on what they want. So, if you missed the Jan 1st deadline that is just fine because now is as good a time as any to set some worthy goals for yourself.
Are you good at following through on your goals? Some will see projects through to the end but more have a habit of setting goals only to have them go by the wayside before January is out. Most of us are great starters but not good finishers. We are full-steam ahead and totally motivated at the beginning but soon lose steam and end up not reaching the finishing line and end up putting the same goals on our list year after year. Maybe this is the year to break that habit and get what you say you want.
How will you keep your resolutions this year? If you are already aware that you don’t have a good track record you are probably also aware that things come up that have taken you off course in the past and likely to do so again. Think about what those obstacles could be and find a ways to handle them when they do come up so that they won’t take you off course and sabotage your efforts.
Procrastination is one of the main causes of failed goals and dreams It holds people back from what they want. Procrastination like a number of other issues is emotional rather than mental. Talking yourself into doing something just doesn’t work, neither does willpower.
When you think about how our emotions affect us just consider the topic of weight loss. Why do so many of us have such a difficult time losing weight when we know what we need to do. There’s a ton of information available so no one could say they don’t have the knowledge. It used to be considered that people that had a problem losing weight had no will power. Some said they were just greedy and lazy people that ate too much. Then it was finally revealed that there is far more to it than that. The truth is that there are a lot of emotional triggers related to weight issues.and the reasons why people have such a struggle losing excess weight, even though they are desperate to do so. It has become accepted that a lot of problems are actually emotional and telling someone to just do it is not going to work.
Procrastination means constantly putting things off, even when you know it’s something that you really want or need to do. This can create a lot of stress for you because what you need to do stays on your mind and to do list. It takes your focus, makes you feel guilty and stops you from enjoying your free time because you know there’s still something you should be doing or need to do. A great example of this is tax season. Many of us leave doing our taxes to the last minute and worry about it for weeks before hand rather than get it done and not feel the pressure and guilt.
If you want to lose weight you know that there are specific things that you need to do otherwise it won’t happen. If you want to become more fit you know that you are going to have to exercise more. Even though you really and truly want the results something stops you from doing what needs to be done.
You need to dig deeper and find out what is really stopping you. Ask yourself “What if I lost the weight how would my life be different” or “What if I made more money how would my life be different”? Do this process with whatever it is that you say you want and see what answers you come up with. Is there something you are unconsciously (not aware of) that is stopping you getting what you want? Check what you feel and not the first answer that comes to your mind as we are searching for the emotional blocks. Once you figure this out you will have a much better chance of success.